Suggestive research gives the impression
that a healthy person would not include a hoarder. I wouldn’t disagree with it,
although the hoarders themselves probably do.
Hoarders are often in denial. That is why
it has become such a big problem, because hoarders have become immune to living
in chaos. But there is also another reason why:
A hoarder’s brain acts differently than the
brain of a non-hoarder. And that difference is the part of the brain that
controls decision-making. It is often seen that hoarders are perfectionists of
their own lives. They want to control every aspect of it, and when a hoarder is
uncertain about anything, the brain automatically recognizes that as fear,
pushing to the back of their mind, as well as the back of that cabinet in the
hallway. Or somewhere where that specific object can be dealt with later, or
never in a hoarder’s case.
For those who hoard, it becomes a vicious
cycle, one that is very difficult to break. This cycle can become so
overpowering that it basically takes over a person’s life. It destroys a
hoarder’s confidence and self esteem, and also their social life. Simple things
become a daily struggle. Things like feeling they can’t invite someone over for
a cup of tea, because the way they live is unacceptable or socially wrong. And
it is. When hoarders feel they can’t invite guests over, the motivation to
clean, maybe even a little disappears and a worse situation appears.
So to answer the question: Why can’t
hoarders get rid of anything?
They can, but
it takes time and a lot of mental intuition and self motivation. They need a
stress free environment to help get back on the track of becoming ‘hoarder’
free.
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